Why I Am A Doula

Posted by on Aug 26, 2013

I became a doula because I was a childbirth teacher who got curious and went to a “labour support” course thinking I would learn some useful things to teach the dads and partners in my classes.  This was way back in 1994, when I didn’t know the word “doula” and had a 5-year-old, a 3-year-old and a 1-year-old.  There was no way I was going to be a doula.  I couldn’t leave my kids.  My youngest was still nursing.

But only a week or two after the doula course (which I loved), a woman called to ask me to be her doula.  She was going to be in my prenatal class and didn’t have a partner and knew she needed support in labour.  Of course, I said yes.  It was irresistible.

After that birth, I realized how much I learned from being with the parents, how it informed my childbirth teaching and how much of a difference I could make in the parents’ experience.  I was hooked.  I took three clients that first year, and five clients the next.  And then I started taking a client a month – that was as many as my family could handle.  Nowadays, I run the Mothering Touch Centre, but I still take on five or six clients each year.  I have to.

I have to keep going to births because it helps me stay current with the hospital practices and that is important for my childbirth teaching.  It also stops me from forgetting the intensity and the unpredictability of birth.  I need to remember what hard work it is to support a woman in labour.  I need to not develop a rosy memory of how lovely it all is.  I want to be able to give the parents in my childbirth classes and the doulas in my workshops a realistic idea of what birth is like.

But mostly, I have to go to births because I love them so much.  I love the excitement and the intensity of it.  I love how doula work helps me to stay in the moment and be with the parents as they move along their journey.  I love watching the power and the strength of the chilbearing body.  I love watching the partner’s awe.  I love seeing the parents’ response to that tiny, new baby – and the baby’s response to the parents’ touch and voices.

I love being part of a team to support the birthing parent.  I love working with Moms and Dads and Parents and Partners and midwives and doctors and nurses who are all devoted to this family’s safety and well-being.  I love working with a person as they discover their childbearing power and go through this immense change that leads them to parenthood.

I am so grateful to all the families who have allowed me to join them on the journey to parenthood.  It has been such a wonderful opportunity for me to learn about birth, about people, about life.  That’s why I am a doula.